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Over the last 18 years of helping people rebalance their health I would have to say that teachers are amongst the poorest in term s of work life balance. After seeing yet another influx of stressed out and run down teachers I spent the last six months doing a lot of research in developing a work life balance guide specifically for teachers. I wanted to find out the real issues that were affecting teachers. In saying that, I was not after some education department political spin. I wanted to hear from the teachers in the front line but I came across more roadblocks than you would find between Israel and the Gaza strip.
I contacted about 20 schools many times over by phone and email. With the exception of four schools all the people in charge of human resources claimed that they were too busy to offer any assistance. My children’s school was the only school that helped. Three schools said it was against school policy to allow an outside organisation to speak with or survey their teachers with one of the human resource managers saying, “To survey our teachers regarding their work life balance would infer that we have a problem in that area.” I suppose it is easier to sweep it under the carpet, isn’t it?
So I then approached the Education department. They told me that I could fill out a Magna Carta-like application form while at the same time informing me that they only allow access from academics from Government funded Universities. I suppose it is an easier way to maintain the Government line.
I then tried contacting the teachers union who agreed that work life balance is a huge issue for teachers. They had done some research that showed that 50 % of first year teachers couldn’t see themselves still being a teacher in ten years. The major reason the teachers gave for not wanting to continue teaching was due to difficulty in coping with the workload. They said that it would be ideal for me to come to their next meeting in February where I would be able to get great feedback.
Early in February I hadn’t heard from them so I called them up. The meeting had already happened. The union delegates decided that it wasn’t appropriate because I wasn’t an academic from a University because they get their funding from the Government. It seems self preservation comes ahead of making a difference for their members. As a result the teaching profession continues to leak talented individuals because they haven’t taught teachers the skills and lifestyle to be able to effectively cope with a demanding workload.
At least the Queensland Teachers College were of some assistance, letting me view a DVD on positive psychology that they send to teachers to help reduce teachers stress.
But work life balance involves a lot more than just positive psychology. It involves communication, exercise, nutrition, injury prevention, effective resting, emotional management, conflict resolution, family and parenting issues and a lot more. Teachers do not have resources on how they can help themselves in these areas. They are left to learn in at the school of hard knocks but the problem is that their education can come at a price. It can cost then their health, their relationships and can cost many their careers.
Despite all of that, the majority of teachers, schools, unions and the education department were, if anything obstructive to the development of a guide that helps to improve the work life balance of teachers. They must be happy to have a high proportion of run-down and burnt out workers among their ranks. They may be happier to complain about how burnt out they are than to be actively interested in a solution.
Coping with a large workload requires certain skills that can be learned and lifestyle modification that can also be learned. Ironically though, it seems that teachers may not be that open to learning new approaches.
When we train or exercise by ourselves there is often the tendency or temptation to cut a few corners or not train with the intensity that will give me the best results for effort.
Today rather than going for a run early in the morning I took my son with me to exercise at the local athletics track late this afternoon. There were 8 younger, more athletic and more talented athletes there finishing the final stages of their training. Not wanting to make a fool of myself amongst these athletes and coaches i decided to use their presence to my advantage.
With others watching on i found myself running with a good technique and i managed to maintain a running pace and intensity that gave me a real high and a sense of achievement.
As i drove back i remembered a hilarious and novel way in which one woman also used others around her to keep her motivated during her exercise. Every morning she would run along the main road wearing a shirt that read, “Honk, if I stop running.” Now that’s motivation.
When it was time for me to go on my long run I was feeling less than exuberant. I was feeling a bit low in energy and wasn’t sure if this was because I was in vacation mode or that my body actually needed some more rest. So how do you tell? You listen to your body…
I began my run along the beaches of Surfers Paradise. I wasn’t setting a cracking pace. After twenty minutes of slow jogging you normally feel fine and if anything you feel a lot better in yourself. On this occassion I continued to feel flat and if anything, I felt even more tired. To me, this was my body telling me to slow down rather than trying to push through the discomfort. I then stopped and walked the beaches focussing on the beautiful climate and scenery and focussed on resting.
With the benefit of the extra days rest I woke the next morning feeling fantastic and went on a really strong and energetic run.
It reinforced the importance of listening to your body. Sometimes you feel flat and tired because you haven’t done any activity and sometimes you feel the same way because you are tired. The solution is to start exercising slowly and if you feel worse stop and make sure you rest.
I had completed a half marathon last year and was surprised how easy the actual race was because I felt full of energy at the end of the race. The race was the easy part; the training program was the hardest part. Just getting those miles under your belt to prepare yourself for the race put so much strain on the muscles and tendons of my legs and feet, not to mention the blisters.
The prospect of training for a marathon seemed quite daunting and a potentially painful experience and I think I am allergic to pain. When I seek advice on fitness I only ask people who are fitter than me so I asked my friend Marc Dragan. Marc, a former professional triathlete and three times runner-up in the grueling Hawaiian Ironman triathlon, is now in his early 50s. He is still in superb shape, runs two very successful businesses and maintains a close family unit with his wife.
Remembering so many patients exercise programs being derailed through aches and injuries, I asked Marc, “How on earth did you manage to do all this training without your legs screaming under the load?”
“Throughout my career, the only time you saw me running on a road was during an actual race. I did all of my running training on sand, grass or on a proper athletics track.”
Now what kind of training should you do?
If you haven’t exercised much before, the important thing is to get into the habit of exercising and not so much what kind of exercise you should do.
The key to look for in a training program is variation. You need to train at different intensities, which means that you must puff to varying degrees when exercising. It’s a bit like training different gears in a car. When you use all different gears your body’s engine works a lot more efficiently. This differs from the all or nothing training approaches that are a sure-fire recipe for fatigue, injury and illness.
I checked out many websites offering fitness-training programs and in my opinion the training programs that encourage a great variation in intensity are at www.endurancetraining.com.au. Check it out and you can adapt it to suit whatever kind of exercise you like. You can even get personalized training programs supplied to you.
With my 40th birthday around the corner I have decided that i will run a marathon non-stop on August 23, 2009. I ran a half marathon just over a year ago and since then I haven’t kept up with my exercise as well as I should.
You may be asking what prompted me to get back into regular exercise again.
There were many factors but, to be honest, the inital reason was vanity. I saw a photo of me with my shirt off off a couple of weeks ago and realised that i had been letting myself start to get out of shape. A bit of ribbing from a couple of friends and relatives about my expanding waistline confirmed that it was time to act.
The second motivating factor was my strong belief that you should practice what you preach. If i didn’t do what I recommended to others, how can i expect others to take action? So I believe that I would be letting a lot of other people down by not being an example.
I realised that i needed to challenge myself to do something that I had never done before but always wanted to do. That’s why i chose to run a marathon. Many of you may think that it is just a vain attempt to hang onto my youth and who knows? You may be right.
As I went for my first long run this morning along Mooloolalaba beach to officially start my new fitness kick I began to think of additional things that I could do that would keep me motivated. I know that people can do anything if they give themselves a big enough reason to do it.
Beginning my third lap along the beach, I could use my experience to help you. The biggest obstacle in developing a healthy exercise habit is time, or more accurately , the lack of time. So I thought if I could train for a marathon and write my book, run this website, run my chiropractic business and still enjoy fullfilling times with my wife and three children, I may be able to learn a few more tips and distinctions that could help us all achieve a healthier work life balance and a healthier life.
So i have decided to regularly document my progress and challenges on this blog so we can all learn from my experiences and mistakes.
On this anniversary of the Sept 11 attack on the World Trade Center I can still remember exactly where I was on that fateful day. I recall my wife sitting on the sofa, hunched forward with her hands in her head fighting back the urge to be physically sick. But it was the picture of my 13-month-old daughter, Aleisha that would forever stay in my mind. Having just learnt to walk, Aleisha was standing about three feet from the television. In front of this backdrop of horror images she was dancing with unbridled joy and exuberance. It was as if she was declaring to the world, “Nothing is going to stop me from being happy.”I looked at Aleisha’s beautiful smile and then turned to the contrasting image of my wife feeling sickening despair. My mind started racing with deep thought as I tried to process the events. “They are both exposed to the same input… but their emotional responses were opposite.”I have frequently heard of the saying, “You can’t control most events but you can control how you interpret them,” and this was a classic example. But then I said to myself what many people would say. “Oh, she’s too young to really understand.” But then I thought, “Perhaps we’re too old to really understand.” So I began to think about different ways to interpret this tragic situation in a way that would make a difference. Once I stopped getting caught up in all of the understandable fear and hatred some more productive thoughts began to flow. “The plane hit the World Trade Center. That’s where the New York Stock Exchange is. The stock market is going to drop in a big way. I better get onto the Internet to position myself to be able to get some shares at bargain prices.” “How on earth can you think of the stock market when this terrible event has just happened?” asked my wife, Angela, shaking her head in disbelief. As I went onto the Internet to change my trades some more positive and productive thoughts flowed. I wondered what it would be like to be the US president in this time of crisis. I also thought that it was a time of incredible opportunity. What a difference would it make to the world if the president had the courage and the strength to reach out to their attackers and ask, “What have we done (or haven’t done) that’s caused you so much pain that you have turned to such an act of destruction?” Rather than just laying blame and creating further division and labelling the perpetrators as part of an axis of evil and we are the good guys, I thought it was an ideal time to address the causes of global disharmony. And since a lot of this disharmony seems to be about (or in the name of) religion I thought to myself, “What would Jesus, Buddha or Mohammed do in this situation?” What would they do? I would venture to say that they would extend an olive branch of peace. But how could we as individuals make a difference in the peacemaking process? The answer to this question came to me five minutes later… After doing the necessary changes to my trading website, I checked my emails. A friend that I had recently met at a conference had forwarded me an email from Neale Donald Walsch, the author of the Conversations With God book series. Here is an excerpt: “Dear friends around the world… The events of this day cause every thinking person to stop their daily lives, whatever is going on in them, and to ponder deeply the larger questions of life. We search again for not only the meaning of life, but the purpose of our individual and collective experience as we have created it-and we look earnestly for ways in which we might recreate ourselves anew as a human species, so that we will never treat each other this way again.” The hour has come for us to demonstrate at the highest level our most extraordinary thought about Who We Really Are. There are two possible responses to what has occurred today. The first comes from love, the second from fear. If we come from fear we may panic and do things-as individuals and as nations-that could only cause further damage. If we come from love we will find refuge and strength, even as we provide it to others. A central teaching of Conversations with God is: What you wish to experience, provide for another. Look to see, now, what it is you wish to experience-in your own life, and in the world. Then see if there is another for whom you may be the source of that. If you wish to experience peace, provide peace for another. If you wish to know that you are safe, cause another to know that they are safe. If you wish to better understand seemingly incomprehensible things, help another to better understand. If you wish to heal your own sadness or anger, seek to heal the sadness or anger of another. Those others are waiting for you now. They are looking to you for guidance, for help, for courage, for strength, for understanding, and for assurance at this hour. Most of all, they are looking to you for love. This is the moment of your ministry. This is the time of teaching. What you teach at this time, through your every word and action right now, will remain as indelible lessons in the hearts and minds of those whose lives you touch, both now, and for years to come. We will set the course for tomorrow, today. At this hour. In this moment. There is much we can do, but there is one thing we cannot do. We cannot continue to co-create our lives together on this planet as we have in the past. We cannot, except at our peril, ignore the events of this day, or their implications. It is tempting at times like this to give in to rage. Anger is fear announced, and rage is anger that is repressed, and then, when it is released, that is often misdirected. Right now, anger is not inappropriate. It is, in fact, natural-and can be a blessing. If we use our anger about this day not to pinpoint where the blame falls, but where the cause lies, we can lead the way to healing. Let us seek not to pinpoint blame, but to pinpoint cause. Unless we take this time to look at the cause of our experience, we will never remove ourselves from the experiences it creates. Instead, we will forever live in fear of retribution from those within the human family who feel aggrieved, and, likewise, seek retribution from them. So at this time it is important for us to direct our anger toward the cause of our present experience. And that is not necessarily individuals or groups who have attacked others, but, rather, the reasons they have done so. Unless we look at these reasons, we will never be able to eliminate these attacks.” It took this letter to open my eyes to a whole new definition of personal responsibility.I realize that we cannot say that we are responsible only for what happens to us as individuals. This letter was an introduction and a challenge to start to also accept responsibility for our part in the world regardless how small and insignificant that we think that we are. Whether we like to admit it or not the collective actions (or inactions) of billions of Westerners has resulted in a sense of hostility and mistrust amongst many in the non-Western world. Personally I could not recall anything I had done to Muslims to promote antagonism. On the same note I could not recall any actions that actually promoted more unity and understanding.My inaction was a small part responsible for this build up of antipathy.
Responsibility means that we are able to respond. If you are part
of the cause, you are part of the solution. It was time for us to stop
pointing the finger at others and start looking into the mirror. On
that day I began to feel truly responsible for the first time. I intended
to do my insignificant part as a citizen of the world to promote harmony. The opportunity didn’t come until the weekend when on the way to the gym, I saw three young Muslims. My heart went out to them. “How would they be feeling at this time?” You could see the fear and hesitancy in their eyes as we crossed paths as they tried to avoid eye contact. Recalling some language I learnt as an exchange student to Indonesia, I greeted them with the traditional Muslim greeting, “Wassalam allaikum.” Their eyes widened and their chests dropped with relief and surprise. And then with a nervous smile, one of the girls turned around and replied, “Wallaikum salam.” It was one small step. But a giant leap for mankindness.
I have received numerous requests for more information about my friend Amanda Boxtel who has been receiving stem cell therapy in India from Dr. Geeta Schroff.
For more information on Amanda’s story visit www.amandaboxtel.com or visit her blog at www.amandaboxtel.wordpress.com .
You can see photos of Amanda standing and kneeling with assistance on her latest blog at http://amandaboxtel.wordpress.com/photos-amanda-pt-may-2008/
